No one likes to cry. We tend to hold it in until a more convenient time or until it builds up and explodes. Or we replace it with humor, alcohol, or drugs. But when we do cry, it feels good. Crying is cathartic, it’s the release of heavy duty emotion. And yet, when certain people do it (i.e. men) it doesn’t come across that way. At least to some people.
This might be because I’m a woman, but I think it’s sexy when a man cries. It shows their vulnerability. They’re not a wall of steel, their a fleshy, soft human being. And it’s unfortunate that gender norms have brainwashed us to think that men should be the almighty powerhouse with no time for sentiments and emotion.
I think it’s going to be interesting to delve into this idea of men writing to heal. Take any poem written by a man and you can see how much emotional baggage they carry, and how beautifully they can convey that. There’s a song by Kendrick Lamar (the name escapes me) where he cries while rapping. It’s pretty powerful and I never thought he was a sissy for doing so.
I’m friends with a lot of guys and I’ve seen a few of them cry, but not all. They never par take in drama, or gossip with their friends, or even tell their friends about this cute girl their seeing. In the end, men and women and two completely different creatures and we handle our emotions differently.